welcome!
you’re actually meant to be here. thank you for being here. let’s talk about what it means to be here, and how we show up for one another:
queering spaces benefits everyone.
institutions, social norms, and our societal systems were set up with limited perspectives contributing. they inherently make life hard on those who weren’t in the room to say “hey guys, maybe not!”
changing the way our lives take shape requires us to act with intention in every corner. queer it up, de-center whiteness if you aren’t trying to already, cooperatively balance power dynamics, and poke at all the things assumed subconsciously.
it requires us to know how our positionality impacts our experience of the world, if it isn’t clear already. some identities come with privilege; name them and change them in dialogue with diverse perspectives.
be curious, ask the question, say the thing, bring someone else with you.
you get to change things within your circles
where you work. where you buy stuff. where you do things. the people you do them with. the people you invite to the thing. the way the thing is organized in the first place. the listening you can do when more voices are around you. the interruptions you can gift to folks who need a jump in deconstructing e v e r y t h i n g. be that steady arm for a moment, or longer. offer a hug to someone who needs it, if that’s the vibe.
small things add up, and big change must happen for the title of “ally” to become more of a verb. you are an important part of it all because you doing things differently gets noticed in homogenous spaces. people with undisrupted privilege shouldn’t collect $500 when others are sent to jail. and billionaires shouldn’t exist.
move louder. you can live a freer, more open and loving life. you can build habits of resistance and thoughtful disruption. you noticing things you missed before or didn’t think of initially is you making space for bigger, better dreams your past self could never imagine. you are part of something bigger, something deeply connected, something sacred and divine within the human experience. we have to do our best to feel it all and take the journey in good company. and you are not meant to do it alone.
this is not a prescription. you will draw your own lines.
this is one person’s heartfelt jumble of words to compel your involvement, whatever that may end up being, and reminding you it must be done in community, not isolation. we can’t be all the things.
go ask other people, too! i’m honored to know some wonderful humans + things. a few of them are linked below! dig in + follow the things
thoughts + resources from other folks: (a very incomplete compilation)